Coping with Breakup: A Pet Can Help With Relationship Rescue

Coping With Breakup

I was wondering what I could do to get my ex-girlfriend back while coping with breakup. I began going over the kinds of things she had said to me leading up to this separation. Specifically, what had she said when she walked out on me? Well, she had said a lot. She had said that I was spineless, a wimp, that I did not stand up and be counted. I lacked self confidence. That had set me wondering how to manage coping with breakup.

I did not see myself making major personality changes overnight. But then it came to me. I could do something to change the way she viewed me. I could equate myself with something she thought of as very assertive, very powerful—a kind of alter ego. I would get a dog. She, then, would begin thinking of me as having qualities like the dog.

A Doberman Would Help Me While Coping With Breakup

She wanted power, aggressiveness, and confidence. I would get a Doberman. I could have gotten a Pit Bull, but I had on one occasion heard her mention that she thought Dobermans were beautiful. So, the Doberman would appeal to her aesthetically and as a power symbol. Both of these qualities would be transferred to me. So in a few months I had Sir Lancelot, my dobie, and we were going through obedience training together as I attempted coping with breakup.

I was warned by my trainer not to keep my Dobie too isolated. "Makes them mean. They attach too much to you." So I did just the opposite of what the trainer recommended. I kept my dog isolated. Nevertheless, I did take Lance on long walks. And lo and behold, Lance and I came face to face with my Ex. "What a beautiful Doberman!" she said. She wanted to pet him but he flared his teeth when she held out her hand. She froze.

"He is very much attached to me," I said.

"But I wish I could pet him, she replied."

"I could train him to allow him you to pet him," I said.

"Really?" And her eyes flashed.

"So I went to my trainer and explained the situation.

He recommended that I gradually expose my Lance to more and more people.

Then, the day came when my ex-girlfriend was able to pet him.

Coping With Breakup by Opening a Kennel

She loved the dog and since we went on long walks together, she gradually became re-attracted to me and we started a whole new relationship. In fact, we discovered that we both liked dobies so much that we went into business together. We opened a kennel.

Now what came out of this experience is that you can alter the way a person perceives you by identifying yourself with an animal. If my ex had said I lacked a warm and cuddly quality, I would have gotten a chihuahua. If she thought I was too lazy to run with her, I would have gotten a greyhound. If she wanted me to parrot her words of wisdom, I would have gotten a parrot.

So the first step is to figure out what your ex thinks you lack and then to figure out which pet possesses this very quality. Then you must have SHOW TIME. A chance encounter and Wham, her curiosity builds and she wants to participate in relating to the animal. In relating to the animal, she begins to relate to you. In this process, you may actually gain some of the qualities your ex wants you to have and if so that is all to the better.

Some women like danger, or at least the appearance of danger. So you may have to develop a rapport with tarantulas or boa constrictors. I knew a lady who enjoyed doing martial arts forms with a boa constrictor wrapped around her arm. I think that in her case, she had chosen the symbol over the man anyway. I was not about to perform her ritual dance to prove a point.

These are only a few ways to make use of pets as a way of getting your ex-girlfriend back. In the process, you may actually change, so be ready to try a new path, to launch a new life. Of course, there is always the possibility that she will want the Dobie, the Tarantula, the Boa-Constrictor, the Pit Bull, the Chihuahua, and not you. Nevertheless, these have worked and will work while coping with breakup.